Reinventing yourself; Part 4: Staying True

If you’ve been going through this series there’s a good chance you’re not happy with you’ve been. It’s a good sign of wanting to change, it means you’re open to seeing your flaws and improving yourself. However, there’s a dangerous trap that you can fall into during this process. It’s not uncommon to forget yourself during this time of change, but it’s important that you realize this and prevent it.

Don’t forget that the old you is still you, you were that way for a reason and it isn’t a totally bad thing. Accept the way you were, your flaws, your quirks, remember them. Maybe you were shy, and that’s okay, just because you’re into Lolita now doesn’t mean you can’t be shy. If it makes you really uncomfortable talking to people or being forward then that’s okay, be shy, but work slowly on being more comfortable with being forward when you need to.

Maybe you loved comics before you decided to reinvent yourself and maybe that love no longer fits with the pin-up bombshell you see yourself as now, but you still love reading Gotham City Sirens. Well still read it! Don’t give up things you love just because they don’t ‘fit’.

So remember darlings, you’re creating an image, a character you can be when you want or need to. You are still yourself, you are still unique and you can still keep all the things you love. Don’t lose yourself in changing yourself.

Reinventing: Part 2; Picking a 'new' You

Hello again darlings!

If you haven't already I suggest checking out our last part of the lesson, Reinventing: Part 1.

Now, in this one we get to talk about one of my favorite things; creating an alias! It's just so darn fun pretending to be someone else! We're not going to be looking at making a totally new self for lolita, then we'd just be playing dress-up instead of expressing ourselves. We are going to be using some of the same basic ideas though.


First things first!

Review: Arda Wigs

I have a tendency to like changing up my hair a bit. Okay, a lot. Because of this my hair is a bit... damaged. It's naturally thin strands and a lot of them, so it tends to break easily under stress and become frizzy and fried. So I decided to finally look into wigs, only to be met with bland colours that were expensive. Looking at a lot of cosplay wigs brought only cheaply made wigs that were only good for a few uses, came pre-styled and would never look natural.

Then I heard of Arda Wigs.

Reinventing: Part 1; First steps and an Intro

I've decided to open up things with a little series.

Over the next few weeks I want to reinvent myself, it's something I go through often. I get antsy, restless and bored and the easiest thing to change is yourself, so that's where I head!

During this series I'm not going to ask why you want to change yourself, that's all yours, but if you want to tell me I'd be glad to know.
(Personally, I'm restless and unhappy with myself and my life. I feel like I need a clean slate to get where I want to be.)
This will not be a perfect little "How to be the perfect hime/sweet/kuro/etc." list.
This is also not a "You must do" list. Take as more... suggestions; maybe even guidelines.

A Brand New Me

Well hello,


I guess it's traditional to open a blog with a welcoming post. A mission statement of sorts. So here we go.

I'm starting over. I'm not the happiest with my life, but I know I could be, I can see the potential in myself and I want to tap into that potential. I want to be the magical, happy, creative girl I see sleeping inside me. She's ready to wake up and live and I'm not going to stop her. Lolita will help me with this, it will get me through as I learn and fine tune my style.


So, I will be Lightly Lolita and I will learn and grow and live.